You’ve probably heard of Neil Strauss and “The Game” and chances are you’ve caught an episode or two of VH1’s “The Pickup Artist”. If you’re into learning how to meet women then there are hundreds of guys out there peddling products that they claim will help make you successful in this area. The problem is, if you just memorize some stuff that you read in a book then there’s a big chance of you using it and having someone call you out. That’s because there’s plenty of guys out there using the same material. Another problem with just memorizing lines out of a book is that you aren’t congruent with it. When you say it, you’re not genuinely interested in what you’re saying, so you don’t give much emotion, expression, or passion to what you’re saying, and people won’t be interested at all, or they’ll just think you’re making stuff up. How do you combat this though? If you don’t think you have anything cool to say, and you’re worried about staling out, then how can you make your speech more exciting and involving without just copying some other guy and using his techniques? One secret is to learn the structure and the patterns behind exciting and emotive language. Ross Jeffries and his Speed Seduction products put a lot of stress on learning the structure and the techniques to make your language come alive, and draw people in. Here are some of the techniques and patterns behind Speed Seduction, some tips that you can go out and use right now to make your speech have a lot more impact.
Feelings: Think of how many feelings are out there of the top of your head. Passion, excitement, adventure, joy, happiness, sadness, longing, connection. One of the keys to making your speech more interesting is invoking a variety of feelings while you’re talking with someone. With guys, we tend to be more logical, and to not really invoke this kind of stuff, but you have to make it a point to. Talk about some amazing adventure you had, talk about what the feeling is like when you’re really connected with someone, talk about the passion you have in your life. Really get involved in your own stories and feelings, and see it in your mind as if you’re living the story again. In this way, the person talking with you will go on a kind of rollercoaster ride of emotions. That’s one of the main techniques of Speed Seduction is bringing up a variety of different feelings and emotions (connection, lust, fascination, safety).
Quotes: A while back, I saw this documentary on the Discovery Channel where jackals eat their own fecal matter and regurgitate it to their offspring. No, I never really saw a documentary about this, but the thing is that you can say some of the craziest things if you claim that you heard it somewhere, like from a newspaper, a documentary, a friend, etc. One of the big techniques of Speed Seduction and NLP is saying things in quotes, so that you can get away with saying more risque things.
Weasel Phrases: It sounds really slimey, but weasel phrases are essentially just phrases that lead someone to using their imagination and leading them into a certain state, or a way of feeling. Examples include phrases like “Have you ever…?” “What’s it like when you…?” “Can you remember a time…?” For instance, you couldn’t really go up to someone and say “You should feel excited and totally interested.” They’d look at you like you have a third head. Rather you could say, “I just went to this really interesting lecture. Have you ever heard someone speak and you feel totally fascinated by what they’re saying, and the rest of the room just disappears, and time just melts away?” You’re achieving that effect, but you’re doing it in a less obvious way.
Time Distortion: One of the best ideas to come from Speed Seduction, and something that’s being incorporated into a lot of new books on seduction, is the idea of “time distortion” or “future projection” or “future adventures projection” (there’s like a hundred names for the simplest concepts). The idea is that you can create an image of the two of you going out, having a great time, and just really build it up into some big event. You can be serious with this, or you can be totally out there with this. MeHow advocates really wacky crazy stuff “We could be space aliens, and you could get in my spaceship and we’d fly back to my home planet and collect moonrocks” and Speed Seduction is more of a realistic approach “going out with someone and just having an amazing time.” If you really describe a date or event, go into details about how it’s the best thing since sliced bread, then the girl you’re talking to will be more likely to go with you. It’s a lot better to ask someone to go out for a totally fun adventure than a cup of coffee or the number 3 special at Burger King.
Speed Seduction gets a lot of negative press for being manipulative, but really a lot of the techniques are just patterns of good speech that persuasive people use. And the good part about learning the patterns of persuasive speech rather than word-for-word scripts is that you’re not going to get called out for something someone has already heard before. Plus, you can make things up as you go, and talk about stuff which is actually interesting to you rather than regurgitating (that’s twice I’ve used that word, sorry) something that you’ve read somewhere. These are just some of the techniques that are discussed in Speed Seduction that you can go out and use today. Just try them out, have fun, and good luck.